Ricky and I talk about legacy alot. Ricky has always been very focused on leaving a good, Godly legacy for his children, probably something he is more aware of than many after losing his father over 20 years ago. Last night, I saw, first hand, the impact of a legacy.
We went to visitation services for Gabe Brewer. Gabe was a 17 year old that was killed in a car accident. We knew Gabe because we used to go to his father, Chris’s church six years ago. Gabe is one of the few kids I remember, because honestly, after having 3 of my own, my memory is not what it used to be. I remember Gabe as an extremely sweet, friendly, outgoing little boy that loved basketball, especially UK basketball and was cute as a button. He loved God. He loved his family. He loved his church and he loved people. You know the type, well…maybe you do. They are few and far between these days. He was the type of kid that you meet and think, “I hope my kids are like him whenever I have kids.”
After not seeing Gabe for 6 years, I’ll be honest. I wondered if he was the same great kid that emanated the light of Jesus Christ in his smile. I wondered if he had gotten in with a bad crowd, or if he had rebelled or if he had just become mediocre in his faith and love of people as most teenagers do. When we drove up to the church where the visitation was, which is very large, with multiple parking lots, we noticed two large parking lots were full. I wondered what else was going on at the church (I mean it is a large church with many weekly activities) and I wondered if it was interfering with the visitation. I was not prepared for what was inside.
We got there about 45 minutes after visitation started and there were people as far as I could see. We stood in line for over 2 hours before getting to the front of the line. All of those cars were there for the visitation. I quickly learned that not only was Gabe still the kind, friendly wonderful kid we had known, but that he had grown in his faith and impacted the world around him.
There are so many observations I could share with you, like how heartbreaking it is to see his sweet teenage girlfriend up by the casket, touch his hair and look like she is about to shut down. Or how Gabe’s mom couldn’t make it through the visitation and his dad, looked heartbroken and would occasionally go over to look at him, touch him and kiss him on the cheek. Or how the majority of people that knew him the best looked like they thought they would wake up from a bad dream at any moment. I could tell you about all of the superman shirts that they wore in tribute to him or of the many teenager that were breaking down in tears. Broken
But. The thing that touched me most, was the legacy that this kid left. There were people there (non-family members) that traveled from many states away. He was quite the basketball player from what I heard. He played hard but maintained his Godliness with his intensity. There was a basketball coach from a rival team that traveled over an hour (and probably stood in line for a few hours) to give his condolences. This kid was different. Opposing coaches noticed. If you’ve been around sports much, you know that you really have to be living your faith for it to show on the court. That is probably one of the hardest places for people to see Jesus in you.
It never makes sense when a child dies. It always hurts and it’s always confusing. I’ve always thought that one of the saddest things about a child dying, is that they don’t get to really “make their mark” on the world. What I realized last night, is that , you don’t have to be a “grown up” to leave a legacy. You can leave a lasting legacy, no matter your age. You can impact the lives around you by being kind, having fun, working hard, loving God and loving people. That’s how Gabe did it.